So, here's the deal...I am a 28 year old single woman living in a big/little city (if you don't know what that means you might just want to contemplate it for a hot second). Ok, I will explain that one, so you can get used to my special vocabulary (you will soon find out that I have a language that is quite interesting at times. My friends and I seem to enjoy creating new words and new meanings. We think it is funny. That is why we don’t have that many friends). It is big, but it is also has a bit of a small town feel (this sentence refers to the city I live in, but I have to say this…that's what she said). Ok, back to me. My name is Cherry. I live in a city. I am single and I am ready to mingle...maybe.
Here is the thing about me. I enjoy men I really (really) do, but I have never been super serious with any of them. I usually enjoy the casual hang outs/hook ups for a couple days/sporadically or for one night. I am not a dirty girl by any means, but I have been around in some sense of the word.
I have hung out with all sorts of men. Short, tall...ish (I say ish because I am rather short, so all my tall friends get a bit angry pants if I take one of their vertically blessed men), funny, not at all remotely amusing, cute, not so cute, intelligent, and really unintelligent. After thinking about the many years that I have just been hanging out with all these men, but not committed to any of them I have to ask myself, "why not?" Some of my amigas claim that I am afraid of commitment. Now that I am 28 and STILL single I might have to start agreeing with them.
So, this brings me up to the present. What can I do to help shake my fear of commitment? Then it hit me. Maybe I need to start putting myself out there, so that I can start meeting guys that aren’t…ridiculous (this was the nicest word I could think of). In my life it is pretty hard to meet anyone. I work with only women or gay men, I only hang out with my friends and their husbands, the thought of meeting men at gyms makes me want to vomit a bit, and then I go to bars. Let it be known that going to a bar will almost never give you a healthy relationship. Believe me. I have tried. Ok, I haven't really tried, but I gave a small effort (remember that fear of commitment thing). Anyway, the bottom line is that my life is not conducive to finding and meeting wonderful men.
Then I realized. It is 2010. The twenty first century is the century for internet dating. I needed to get on a website and stat. There were only a few problems with this new adventure.
1. I hate dating. Literally HATE it.
2. Blind dates are possibly the worst.
3. I despise using the phone. It is so bad that my Mom had to learn to text or else she would never be able to talk to me because I never answer phone calls.
4. Online dating...really? Do I really want to do this?
The answer...not really. But that might change. Bottom line is I need to put myself out there. I need to start stretching my limits, to get out of my comfort zone, so I can experience all that life has to offer. Here it is. My commitment. I will commit to giving this online dating thing a chance. By creating this blog I have forced myself to stay accountable.
I have no idea what will come out of this new little adventure I have started. But what I can promise is that there will be embarrassing moments, hilarious stories, awkward dates, and all around good times...possibly. I will be documenting them all for you.
Let's do this!
Can't wait to live vicariously thru you! Good times will be had by all (and by all I mean your readers because lord knows in all likleyhood you may not enjoy this as much as I will)!
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Love you long time
OK my post obviously did not post :( BUT you already have a story to write about Ms. Slurgin................
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